英语翻译"A compassionate person,seeing a butterfly struggling to free itself from its cocoon,and wanting to help,very gently loosened the filaments to form an opening.The butterfly was freed,emerged from the cocoon,and fluttered about but could n

英语翻译"A compassionate person,seeing a butterfly struggling to free itself from its cocoon,and wanting to help,very gently loosened the filaments to form an opening.The butterfly was freed,emerged from the cocoon,and fluttered about but could n
英语翻译
"A compassionate person,seeing a butterfly struggling to free itself from its cocoon,and wanting to help,very gently loosened the filaments to form an opening.The butterfly was freed,emerged from the cocoon,and fluttered about but could not fly.What the compassionate person did not know was that only through the birth struggle can the wings grow strong enough for flight.Its shortened life was spent on the ground; it never knew freedom,never really lived."
I call it learning to love with an open hand.
It is a learning which has come slowly to me and has been wrought in the fires of pain and in the waters of patience.I am learning that I must free the one I love,for if I clutch or cling,try to control,I lose what I try to hold.
If I try to change someone I love because I feel I know how that person should be,I rob him or her of a precious right,the right to take responsibility for one's own life and choices and way of being.Whenever I impose my wish or want or try to exert power over another,I rob him or her of the full realization of growth and maturation.I limit and prevent by my act of possession,no matter how kind my intention.
I can limit and injure by the kindest acts of protection or concern.Over extended it can say to the other person more eloquently than words,"You are unable to care for yourself; I must take care of you because you are mine.I am responsible for you."
As I learn and practice more and more,I can say to the one I love:"I love you,I value you,I respect you and I trust that you have the strength to become all that it is possible for you to become - if I don't get in your way.I love you so much that I can set you free to walk beside me in joy and in sadness.I will share your tears but I will not ask you not to cry.I will respond to your needs.I will care and comfort you,but I will not hold you up when you can walk alone.I will stand ready to be with you in your grief and loneliness but I will not take it away from you.I will strive to listen to your meaning as well as your word,but I shall not always agree.Sometimes I will be angry and when I am,I will try to tell you openly so that I need not hate our differences or feel estranged.I can not always be with you or hear what you say for there are times when I must listen to myself and care for myself,and when that happens I will be as honest with you as I can be."
I am learning to say this,whether it be in words or in my way of being with others and myself,to those I love and for whom I care.And this I call loving with an open hand.
I cannot always keep my hands off the cocoon,but I am getting better at it!

英语翻译"A compassionate person,seeing a butterfly struggling to free itself from its cocoon,and wanting to help,very gently loosened the filaments to form an opening.The butterfly was freed,emerged from the cocoon,and fluttered about but could n
几天前我曾与一位朋友我想起一个故事
"一富有同情心的人看到一只蝴蝶,难以摆脱它的茧和想要帮助,轻轻地松开,形成一个开放的细丝.恢复自由的蝴蝶摆脱了的茧,心绪不宁地但飞不起来.富有同情心的人没有不知道的是只有通过出生斗争可以翅膀强壮起来的飞行.其缩短的寿命是花在地面 ；它永远不会知道从来没有真正生活的自由.
我叫它张开手爱学习.
它是一种学习,已经慢慢地向我和疼痛的火灾和耐心的水域内已经造成了.我学我必须释放的一颗如果我离合器或坚持,试图控制,我失去我试着.
如果试图更改我爱因为我觉得我知道该人应该是怎样的人,我抢他或她一个宝贵的权利为自己的生活和选择的方式承担责任的权利.每当我施加我希望或想要或尝试在另一个发挥电力,我抢他或她的成长和成熟的充分实现.我限制及管有不管怎么样我法防止我的意图.
我可以限制和保护或关注的仁慈行为的伤害.在长期能说,其他人比语言更有力,"你不能照顾自己 ；因为你是我的我必须照顾你.我要为你负责."
我学习中,并更多的实践,我可以说,我所爱的人："我爱你、 我珍惜你、 我尊敬你,我相信你有实力成为所有,它是可以成为-如果得不到你的去路.我爱你那么多我可以放你自由的快乐和悲伤走在我的身边.我将分享你的眼泪,但不是会请你不要哭泣.我会回应您的需要.我会照顾和安慰你,但我不会你当你可以独自一人走了.我将随时准备与您在您的悲伤和孤独,但我不会就离你.我会努力将听听你的意思,以及你的话语,但我不会总是赞同.有时我会生气,当我,我会告诉你,我需要不讨厌我们之间的分歧或觉得疏远公开.我可以不总是和你在一起或有时间时必须听对自己照顾自己,和当发生这种情况我会像对你说实话,我可以说听到你.
我正在学这样是否是在单词或我的与其他人和我自己的方式爱和为谁在乎.这叫爱张开手.
我总是不能把我的手的茧关闭,但我很好 !